The Approach in Seduction

THE APPROACH

-Let’s choose the right victim:

Life is short, and we shouldn’t waste it chasing after and trying to seduce the wrong people.

The choice of victim is crucial, since it determines how the seduction will be carried out and will shape everything that happens afterward.

The perfect victim is one who unsettles us in an inexplicable way that defies words, and whose effect on us has nothing to do with frivolity.

Of course, you have to test the waters first, because if the potential victim isn’t open to our influence, there’s no point in starting the hunt. They have to be relatively vulnerable to us.

They’re usually people who think we have something they lack and who would love for us to give it to them.

They may have a temperament that is completely opposite to ours, and this difference will create an exciting tension.

On the contrary, we have nothing to gain by trying to seduce someone who is very closed off to us and who won’t play along with the game of seduction we want to initiate.

-Let’s create a false sense of security. Let’s approach this indirectly:

Once we’ve chosen the right victim, we have to get their attention and arouse their desire.

To move from friendship to love without it coming across as a ploy.

We must pay close attention to our conversations with our victim, as they will provide us with a great deal of information about their tastes, weaknesses, personality, and desires that shape their adult behavior. At the same time, we must make them feel comfortable in our company so that they lower their guard, and in this way, a spontaneous comment or light physical contact can easily spark a different kind of thought.

-Send a variety of signals:

It has to be done right from the start, before our victims know too much and have formed an impression of us.

To enhance our image with imagination and send all kinds of subtle signals, without being too obvious: at once tough and tender, spiritual and worldly, innocent and cunning. An aura of mystery and contradiction that makes our victim want to know more about us, drawing them into our inner world.

-Let’s pretend to be an object of desire: Let’s create love triangles:

Our desire for another person almost always involves social considerations; we are drawn to those whom others find attractive.

We want to possess them and take them away; we can call this many different things, but much of it has to do with vanity and greed.

Few people are drawn to someone whom others abandon or avoid; people tend to gather around those who spark their interest.

To be an object of seduction, we must create an aura of desirability—of being loved and courted by many.

To build a reputation that precedes us—if so many have succumbed to our charms, there must be a reason…

-Let’s master the art of innuendo:

Suggestion is the art of planting ideas in a person’s mind by making allusions and using evasive language that take root days later and eventually come to seem like the person’s own ideas.

We must develop a sublanguage (bold statements followed by retractions and expressions of guilt, ambiguous comments, trivial conversation combined with suggestive glances…) that penetrates the victim’s unconscious to convey what we really want to say.

Let’s do everything that’s suggestive… we must make the victim feel vulnerable through subtle words, light physical contact…but never being too obvious—presenting everything as a question—so that when we’re not around, our victims will fantasize about the ideas we’ve planted in their minds and slowly let themselves be lured into our web without realizing that we’re the ones controlling them.

-To spark interest and desire:

The goal in this first part is to take their minds off their own world for a bit and fill their minds with thoughts of us.

When she shows the necessary interest, we must turn it into something stronger: desire. This is usually preceded by a feeling of emptiness, an inner void that needs to be filled.

-Let’s share in their mood:

Let’s play by their rules, enjoy what they enjoy, and adapt to their way of being… that way, we’ll flatter their narcissism, and they’ll open up and become vulnerable to our subtle influence.

Let’s focus all our attention on him or her and become his or her mirror, so that our victim feels like he or she is living the life of the person he or she had always wanted to be… a romantic hero… a great lover… or anything else…We must indulge all their whims and mood swings so as not to give them anything to resist or react against.

-Create temptation:

The task is to create a temptation that is stronger than the everyday variety. You must immerse yourself in our seduction by tempting her with whatever we sense will awaken in our victims a desire they cannot control.

We must target our victims’ weaknesses; that vulnerability or insecurity is the key to tempting them. We can sense these through the small details that escape their conscious control: the way they dress… a sudden comment.

His past—and especially his past romantic relationships—are full of clues that create that temptation.

We must offer a powerful temptation tailored to his weakness, and in this way hope to succeed in winning him over.