How to Turn a Man On

A 10-Point Guide to Knowing How to Turn a Man On in Bed?

Men today want to share sex, not just enjoy it on their own…

It’s becoming less and less of a “here today, gone tomorrow” kind of thing, even though socially they’re always seen as superficial or as people who just want to enjoy casual, one-time sex.

Today’s women play a major role in this shift in the concept of pleasure, as they have changed their expectations regarding sexuality, definitively moving beyond taboos and the traditional link between “sex, commitment, and family.”

Without these foundations in today’s world, it is difficult to fully enjoy the freedom to be herself sexually, seeking pleasure while also giving it.

Here are the top ten desires of men when it comes to sexuality, which shed light on what most men ask for or expect from their partners and what they increasingly value in their partners’ sexual attitudes. We also believe, however, that these are desires that women can easily embrace.

Not all men get aroused in the same way

Although every man is different, there are commonalities in a long list of things they like: soccer, Formula 1… the economic crisis… that guy’s latest fling, how good or bad “…” is… in bed… Javi’s new girlfriend… and, of course, his sexual encounters will be the number one topic of conversation, if they’re going to make the rest of the group jealous.

In private, many men talk about their performance in bed—even if it’s not exactly gentlemanly—as a way to assert themselves in front of others, even if it sounds contradictory at times.

All of these things are simply clues to help you figure out the tastes and preferences of the man you’re with. Remember one thing… he is who he is. His tastes don’t have to be like your ex’s. Explore his tastes as if you were starting with a blank slate.

A little action:

Take the initiative a little—they love that. Reach out to him and suggest plans and ideas. It’s fine to go with the flow and play hard to get every now and then, but the days when women would just sit back and let men do all the work are long gone.

Tell him what you like:

Most of us aren’t mind readers. He’ll appreciate it if you show him the way. Let go of your fears and embarrassment, and take charge of your own pleasure. It’s incredibly exciting to explore a body—and even more so to do it together. If you want your partner to do it right, show him what you like and how you like it.

Don’t make them feel like you’re doing them a favor:

I’m sure he’d love it if you enjoyed sex as much and as often as he does, although he can understand that some days are just like that.

Anyway, it’s a long way from there to feeling like you’re doing him a favor every time you sleep with him… By the way, do you masturbate him or give him oral sex?

Be their partner in sex; make them feel that it’s a pleasure for you, but if you don’t like a specific practice, then talk about it and figure out what’s going on.

Give yourself completely and enjoy it to the fullest by letting him know what makes you feel best and what he likes most.

Relax, this isn’t a test:

Don’t make the mistake of obsessing over making a good impression on them. The worst enemy of desire is worrying about measuring up to their expectations. Take that pressure off yourself, and in the process, you’ll help your partner do the same… that way, you’ll both have a much better time. Sex is an adventure, not a competition.

Seduce him:

Flirt with him… be sexy… and don’t stop trying to seduce him… no matter how many years you’ve been together!!!

Make her feel desirable:

Men, just like women, have egos and love to feel desirable…

Compliment the part of their body or personality that you like and find attractive.

He loves it when you notice how good he looks in the shirt he’s wearing for the first time, how good he smells, or how much you like his personality … or a certain part of his body.

But here’s the thing… if you really want to see him happy… tell him how amazing his penis is… exaggerate a little if you want… but don’t go overboard with the exaggerations…

Don’t complain so much about your body—especially during sex:

Most men need to be taught what stretch marks, crow’s feet, cellulite, and that dreaded “orange peel” skin are…

Stop avoiding certain poses or games, or getting nervous if there’s too much light, for fear that he’ll see something about your body that you don’t like.

If he’s with you, it’s because he likes you—and probably much more than that… or at the very least, he’s crazy about you.

Tell him he’s the best:

He wants to believe that he’s the best lover you’ve ever had.

Tell him he’s the best, even if you have your doubts. If you don’t want to lie, please don’t be too honest.

At least don’t tell him how well others did it. His sexual self-esteem will thank you for it.

Don’t hold back, and don’t cut him off:

Dare to try new things, and if he’s the one suggesting them and you’re not convinced, don’t say no to him with a look on your face as if you were dealing with a sex maniac.

This makes him feel self-conscious, and later you’ll complain that he doesn’t take the initiative or that he’s too predictable in bed. Think about it before you say no.

If you don’t feel like it, that’s totally fine… but who knows??

With a little imagination, you might be able to explore your sexuality further without compromising your values.

Tell her about the fantasies you’d like to act out.

Although men tend to be more adventurous in bed, they also tend to be quite tolerant of monotony, so try something new and you’ll get him excited about the idea.

Bonus track: after sex:

Rushing off to the shower or bathroom right after sex is a pretty abrupt ending. We understand that hygiene is very important, but “the after” in sex requires tenderness. We offer two options: either have wipes ready to clean up right in bed, or gently get up, give them a little kiss, go to the bathroom, and come right back to their side. Understand that if you care about the person, having shared an intimate encounter and then staying in each other’s arms afterward is a way of saying, “I appreciate you,” “I care about you,” or “I love you,” and of fostering a sense of closeness—no matter how passionate the encounter may have been.

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