Tips for Getting an A in Oral Sex

The Taboos and Origins of Oral Sex:

Fellatio, cunnilingus, and even anilingus (rimming) are all practices that we now consider normal in sexual relationships; however, doubts about whether to engage in them or about their safety continue to cause confusion.

Oral sex is as old as humanity itself. In fact, the Romans associated power with this type of sex; Julius Caesar was known not only for his victories but also for his great fondness for these practices.

Another story dates back to the year 646 A.D., when the Chinese Empress Wu Zetian decreed that the most prized offering her most distinguished visitors could give her was to perform cunnilingus on her upon their arrival—or possibly the legend that Cleopatra went so far as to perform fellatio on more than 100 soldiers. Today, prominent figures such as J.F. Kennedy and Bill Clinton have been the subject of endless gossip in the tabloids.

Despite the enduring nature of this practice, both in the past and today, oral sex is still treated as taboo rather than as a form of foreplay that should be approached with sensuality, hygiene, and a sense of calm.

Oral sex is practically nonexistent (or barely there) in those “here and now” situations—relationships that are more about titillation than true pleasure.

Everything You Need to Know About Oral Sex:

It’s important to know how to perform fellatio (for men) or cunnilingus (for women), because they are essential forms of foreplay.

The key is a positive attitude, patience, persistence, and good hygiene. The lips and tongue stimulate the genitals, but the hands and massage are just as arousing and serve as the essential prelude to oral sex that builds to a crescendo of pleasure—rather than a “guerrilla-style” assault that can end in a “flop.” The ending can vary, from moving on to sexual penetration or, if you prefer, finishing with mutual masturbation.

No two bodies are alike, so your intuition and eye contact with your partner in the moment will give you clues—through their gestures, breathing, and moans—about what they like.

If you notice that something isn’t working, pay attention to what’s happening around you to figure out what’s going on. It’s important to focus on pleasure and the senses—and specifically on the female erogenous zones, which remain largely unknown even to women themselves.

The positions can be whatever your imagination and the limits of human anatomy and your flexibility allow, depending on whether you’re on a couch, in bed, etc. It’s best to create your own positions, keeping in mind above all that it’s not a matter of balance but of comfort and experiencing pleasure.

If you want to engage in oral sex during your sexual encounters and want to avoid risks, you should know that there are special condoms available.

Some are shaped like dental guards—with or without latex—and are called “oral sex barriers.” They are usually thinner than those used for penetrative sex and do not contain lubricant, so they are not uncomfortable, but they do come in various flavors to make the experience a complete pleasure.

Pregnant women can safely enjoy oral sex without any problems. Obviously, good hygiene is essential to prevent any type of infection that could complicate their treatment during pregnancy.

Another important point is not to blow air into the vagina, as this could cause discomfort. That said, it’s common for pregnant women to feel anxious about certain sexual practices, but at the same time, it’s normal for them to have a higher-than-usual sex drive. So, if you trust your partner, this can be one of the best times to enjoy yourselves.

Tips for Giving a Good Blowjob:

-Don’t be too direct: Straddle his body, kiss his neck, and slowly work your way down. Kiss his chest, his stomach, and work your way back up… don’t focus solely on his penis. The groin, perineum, or even the testicles (gently) are areas teeming with nerve endings where he’ll love it when your tongue lingers. Kisses, caresses, or even your breath will set the mood before you take his penis into your mouth.

-From the bottom up: Position yourself comfortably between her legs and spread them wide enough to get a good view of her entire genital area. Then start licking from her anus to the tip of her penis.

Take it slow, take your time, be thorough… if you notice a spot that really turns him on. Savour every nook and cranny in this area and discover his reaction, and keep in mind that they like to see what you’re doing down there.

-The intensity of your caresses should be gradual: Start slowly and gradually increase the intensity and arousal as you get closer to his penis; this will make the climax last longer and be more intense.

-Caress his testicles: Touch them as if they were Chinese balls to help him relax, using gentle circular motions, while you perform oral sex on him.

-Teeth aren’t invited to the game: After playing around his penis, gently take it into your mouth; the close contact of your tongue and the light pressure of your lips, accompanied by the movements of your hand, will bring him pleasure—especially if you look at him while he’s enjoying his own pleasure (Be careful with your teeth, as they can make him see stars—and not in a good way.)

-With rhythm: It’s essential that the pressure and the movement of your tongue and mouth be in sync—without going too fast—maintaining a sense of calm, and the same goes for the pressure from your lips. Her gestures and moans will guide the rhythm you should follow, although steady, rhythmic movements are usually best.

-Don’t forget the frenulum: This area is very sensitive, so gently kiss the frenulum with your lips and then, with the tip of your tongue extended, playfully give it little licks—it’s the perfect contrast to keep things from getting boring.

Tips for giving great cunnilingus:

-Patience: Women generally need more time to become aroused than men do; it’s not a race, but rather a matter of attention and time.

-Her skin can be the starting point: Run your hands in upward strokes along her skin, starting at the top of her thighs (where her knees end) and moving up to her hips; this helps blood flow to her genitals.

Start by kissing her thighs and inner thighs and gently stimulating the area with your mouth, but without reaching her genitals, and avoid leaving her covered in saliva. Use the tip of your tongue, kiss with light suction, and massage her buttocks, thighs, breasts, neck, etc., with your hands.

-A good lubricant, the perfect touch: Put a little lubricant on your fingertips, and gently play with her labia and vulva; when you sense that she’s aroused, her clitoris will be very sensitive to stimulation and her vagina will begin to lubricate. That’s the moment to kiss and lick the inner thighs, starting with the area where the vulva meets the thighs, the mons pubis, and the labia majora.

-Your tongue will set the tone: Run your tongue along the groove of the labia majora, then between the labia minora. Take them into your mouth and suck on them. Play with the rhythm—starting gently and gradually building to a more intense pace. There’s no set time for cunnilingus; it can vary greatly depending on the person or how they’re feeling that day.

-The G-spot: It’s not that hard to find (you’ll find an article on this blog that gives you tips on how to locate it). Gently apply lubricant to your index and middle fingers to locate it at the entrance to the vagina, and once you’ve found it, use your tongue to continue stimulating it.

Cheer up, and go enjoy this pleasure that never gets old…