Hiding a sexual encounter

Having a sexual affair isn’t easy… it’s a laborious task that requires a lot of patience and dedication to avoid getting caught.

Here are some tips on how to cover your tracks…to be the perfect cheater, always discreet.

It’s not that we’re recommending you have an affair, but if you’re dying to feel something again… if your relationship has hit a rut and you want to clear up your doubts, if you need more sex, or if the very idea of fidelity makes you question things, you might want to consider the following.

Discretion is elegant and compassionate:

If you don’t want to hurt your partner and aren’t planning on breaking up with him or her, be as discreet as possible. No matter how much of a risk-taker you are, you should avoid places you usually go with your partner or friends, as well as public places where there’s a risk of being seen by someone you know.

If possible, keep it a secret. Don’t tell anyone. If possible, don’t even let your friends know that you’re having an affair—and definitely not mutual friends. Even if it’s a really close friend, they might feel guilty and tell your partner the truth, or tell their partner, who might then tell yours.

The fewer people who know you’re having a fling or an affair, the harder it will be for them to find out. Keep your official partner’s identity a secret—even from your lover—so that your lover knows nothing about him or her or about your relationship.

Be careful with your cell phone:

This is how most sexual adventures and flings are discovered.

It’s suspicious if you suddenly start receiving a lot of WhatsApp messages and calls—but especially if you hide to answer them.

Put your phone on silent when you’re with him or her; you might miss a call, but you can always call back.

In your contact list, replace your lover’s name with that of someone who won’t raise any suspicion—it could be a coworker. That way, if your cell phone is audited, the missed calls won’t raise any suspicion.

It’s not a good idea to have more than one cell phone, because if it’s already hard enough to avoid arousing suspicion with just one, it will be even harder if you have more than one—it might even seem more suspicious.

Also, be sure to set a lock code (obviously).

The best way to avoid arousing suspicion is to delete messages as soon as you send them or as soon as you receive them… as well as photos, etc. With the ITrust app, your messages won’t leave a trace on your phone, and you’ll also know if anyone has snooped on them. You should always leave a few messages from a friend to cover your tracks, since it’s very suspicious if you don’t have any messages saved.

Remember that emails, chat histories, and text messages are things your partner can easily use to catch you if they’re looking for a reason to make a big deal out of nothing.

Clues on Your Laptop… Be Careful with Social Media…

Your computer is another place where your partner will look for clues about your affair if they start to suspect you. Be careful with the emails you send and receive (delete them!!)

But above all, be careful about the information you post on social media sites like Facebook.

The Internet is perfect for staying in touch with friends and family, but it’s extremely dangerous when it comes to lovers—even if you have the most complicated passwords, hackers are still a risk. The best thing to do is keep them out of your online accounts.

Never hang up photos with your lover… those pictures might turn up when you least expect it.

If you want to communicate with your lover without getting caught, create another profile with a different name and an avatar-style photo.

Additional expenses:

Bank statements can also easily give you away. Avoid paying for outings with your lover by credit card, especially at restaurants and hotels.

Invoices and unusual transactions in your checking account can also raise your partner’s suspicions. Even if you’re self-employed and claim those expenses as deductions, keep the invoices for expenses you pay while with your lover in a safe place—or destroy them if you can. Don’t even think about paying with a card linked to the joint account you share with your partner.

Stay free of stains and perfumes:

Pay attention to the small details to keep the situation under control. From the very beginning, it’s important to set the rules and make sure both of you are clear on what you’re playing.

It is important to avoid unexpected calls or visits. The person chosen must be willing to accept the risks and adhere to the necessary boundaries.

It should be understood that you should never let anyone give you a hickey, because aside from being totally unsightly, it can ruin all your hard work—since hickeys are really the evidence of the crime.

You should also avoid picking up unfamiliar scents or perfumes, since that would be too obvious—and explaining it would be complicated.

It’s a good idea to give them both the same perfume—that way, you avoid any excuses…

Check your clothes and your car for any oversights—lipstick… a lost earring, a restaurant receipt, etc. Minimize your mistakes… the less you’ll have to lie…

Don’t get confused by their names:

A common mistake is getting the name wrong. But the solution is very easy. Just get into the habit of always saying “honey,” “sweetie,” “baby,” etc. No names, unless they have the same name—which would be great, but that’s unlikely to happen…

Calling both people by the same nickname helps prevent confusion.

Have fun …while it lasts…

Your sexual adventure could last just one phone call or just one date… who knows?

If you’ve got the guts to let your hair down, then enjoy the moment—there’ll be plenty of time for heartache later!!

Think it over carefully, and if necessary… call off the adventure…

Weigh the pros and cons of the relationship; think about what you’ll lose and the effort you’ve put in. Consider how much time has passed, and be fair. It’s always best to avoid bitterness and disappointment…

A business trip?…perfect for a more intense adventure!…

A business trip is a great opportunity to enjoy some freedom and let loose… if you have a job that lets you do that… you’re in luck… but if you don’t, don’t worry… look for ways to get out and just make it happen!!!

“Honey, what bad luck… it turns out that starting next month, I’m going to have to go on business trips to visit clients… ugh, they couldn’t have picked someone else… traveling is such a drag for me…”

Your partner already knows you have to travel… so you have two options:

-Take this opportunity to meet up with someone in your own city

-Or actually travel somewhere else and take your lover with you, or meet up with him or her in his or her city

Don’t let the lack of evidence give you away…

-It is absolutely necessary that you obtain documents or proof that “demonstrate” you were at the place you are supposed to have gone to.

It’s obvious that you really haven’t been there, so you’ll need to have someone you know in that city send it to you, or you’ll need to have made sure to collect receipts (that aren’t tied to a specific date) during a previous trip…

-Airline or train tickets: Buy a ticket to that city that can be canceled later. Save the ticket you bought and show it to your partner, but don’t show them the cancellation (of course).

-Hotel receipt: Just like above, you can book a hotel room online and then cancel it.

-A receipt for a payment made online at a business in that city, such as a store, etc…

-And the best solution of all, because it’s so easy to get: the minutes of the business meeting you’re supposed to have held in that city…

Of course, you always have the option of using Photoshop to fake the document (just like back in school).

THE CALLS…

Whenever you’re away from home, you usually have to call your partner at least once a day to let them know how you’re doing. If your lover knows you’re in a relationship, everything is much easier, but if not:

-You should make sure that you’ll be alone at the time you’d normally call.

Explain that your clients or suppliers (whom you’ve gone to visit) have insisted on inviting you to dinner, and obviously you won’t be able to talk on the phone during dinner (dinners tend to go on for a long time, and obviously you can’t talk on the phone if you’re discussing business).

That’s why it’s better to talk before dinner, but if they insist on talking after dinner, just say yes. If you’re going to spend the whole night with your lover, don’t call and make up an excuse the next day saying it was too late and you didn’t want to bother him or her, that your battery died, that you were tired and couldn’t keep your eyes open… etc.

-Avoid going out of the hotel or your home as much as possible. The more you’re out and about, the greater the chance that your partner or someone you both know will see you.

-Be careful with the car’s odometer when traveling. If your partner is the type who keeps track of how many kilometers you’ve driven, you might want to consider another mode of transportation for “your business trip.”

-Receipts or bills from that intimate dinner with your lover that you might keep in your wallet or purse could be a ticking time bomb.

Before heading home, thoroughly check your wallet, purse, pockets, glove compartment, etc., for anything—including documents—that might show you weren’t where you were supposed to be.

– Pay attention to the letters from the bank that you receive directly at home, which detail your account activity and may show that on a certain date you were not where you were supposed to be.

Ask your bank if you can get your bank statements online. Almost all banks offer this option.

-Finally, if you use WhatsApp and you’re “going” on a trip, remember that this app has a feature that lets you share your current location on a map. This is a huge potential risk, since you’re supposed to be traveling and not in your hometown.

So you’ll have to come up with something to avoid it if your partner is controlling you this way… What should you come up with?:

-“I forgot my charger and my battery is almost dead, so I don’t want to turn on 3G.” (This excuse is only valid to a limited extent and can only be used once.)

-“There’s no 3G coverage where I am, and it doesn’t work.” (Only in places where there’s likely to be consistently poor coverage.)

-Another option… to say to him… “If I’m sending it to you, isn’t it getting to you?”…

Having a secret sexual affair can be very exciting, but keeping it under wraps is an art that only a few have mastered…